DEAR DEIDRE: PEOPLE say my girlfriend is a cougar because she’s over 20 years older than me, but I’m proud to be with her.
However, she’s embarrassed – she won’t introduce me to her friends or family, and we always stay at my home. How can I convince her that I genuinely love her and want a future with her?
I’m a 27-year-old guy, and she is 49. We’ve been together for three years.
For me, the fact she’s a mature woman is only a positive. She’s beautiful, confident, independent and fantastic in bed.
She’s experienced, so knows exactly what she likes and how to please me.
At first, my mates thought it was all a big joke, calling me her toy boy.
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Some of them still don’t understand why I’m with her, not a girl my own age.
But the close ones have realised it isn’t just about sex, and now they totally accept her.
As for her friends, I have no idea what they think, because she won’t let me meet them.
We spend several nights of the week and every weekend together, but always at my flat.
It’s starting to get me down. I’m not bad looking, have a good job and my own home.
I can’t understand why she’s ashamed of me. We have a lot of interests in common, and she’s never made me feel she thinks I’m immature.
I’ve told her how happy she makes me and that one day I’d like to marry her.
But that can’t happen if she is keeping me a secret.
As far as I’m concerned, age is just a number. Why can’t I make her believe that too?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Society can be judgemental about relationships with large age gaps.
But many couples do have happy, lasting relationships, despite their age difference.
Perhaps your girlfriend feels she will be judged harshly, or her friends won’t have anything in common with you.
She may be concerned about the future – for example, if you want children, which she won’t be able to give you.
Or she may also not truly believe you’re in it for the long haul. Alternatively, perhaps she isn’t, which is why she’s keeping you to herself.
You need to talk to her openly about your worries. Tell her how you feel and ask her to be honest.
My support packs on Age Gaps and With A Younger Man? will help you think about the issues you’re facing.
BIRMINGHAM have announced Ashley Cole’s replacement as assistant coach.
The Premier League winner joined the set-up under Wayne Rooney and remained even after the Manchester United legend was sacked in January.
But now, Cole has taken up a full-time role with interim England manager Lee Carsley.
Birmingham said: “Everyone at Blues wishes Ashley the best of luck for the future.”
And the League One club have acted by bringing in Tom Huddlestone to replace Cole after he left Wigan.
Manager Chris Davies, said: “Tom is an excellent coach and a great addition to our First Team Staff as we look to build on our start to the 2024/25 season.
“He has vast playing experience, which has been added to by coaching roles he has held with both club and international teams.
“This will provide a different dynamic to the group and I expect the squad to feed off his knowledge of the game.
“We are all looking forward to working with him and wish him every success at Birmingham City.”
Huddlestone, 37, played for Derby, Tottenham, Wolves, Hull, and United before hanging up his boots.
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He was a player-coach with United’s Under-21 side before joining Wigan’s coaching staff.
Birmingham were relegated from the Championship last season but sit second behind Wrexham in League One.
ANDY MURRAY was challenged to a round of golf by one of his former rivals after the Brit received “constructive criticism” from fans.
Tennis legend Murray, 37, was one of a host of celebrity names that competed in the Wentworth celebrity Pro-Am on Wednesday.
The Scot, who retired from tennis at the Paris Olympic Games last month, played alongside Scottish golfer Bob MacIntyre in the curtain-raiser for the BMW PGA Championship.
Murray, who was seen nailing a putt at the pro-am in Surrey, took to social media after his performance as he responded to those pointing out the flaws in his game.
Speaking on X, he said: “Huge thanks to all the amateur golfers on social media for their constructive criticism of my golf swing.
“Much appreciated 
.”
This post sparked a reply from former US tennis player Mardy Fish – who reached three Grand Slam quarter-finals and a career-high ranking of world No7.
He replied: “Hey Andy, Mardy Fish here…
“I’ll play you for all the prize money I lost when you beat me on the tennis court. Deal?”
Murray and Fish played nine times before the latter retired back in 2015.
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British icon Murray won five of those meetings – including their last one at the Cincinnati Masters nine years ago.
Fish’s career earnings came to around £5.5million, compared to Murray’s £49m.
However, Fish would likely have the upper hand on the golf course as his handicap is around 3, while Murray played off 7 at Wentworth.
Fish has won celebrity tournaments including the American Century Championship and Diamond Resorts Invitational.
In 2022, he also received an exemption to play in the 3M Open – a PGA Tour event in his home state of Minnesota.
